Barbara J. Bender


Barbara J. (Nestler) Bender, 81, of Fair Lawn, NJ passed away on Thursday, November 23, 2017.  Born in Passaic, NJ, she was raised in Clifton and Lincoln Park and resided in Fair Lawn since 1962.  A faithful parishioner of St. Anne R.C. Church in Fair Lawn and St. Catharine R.C. Church in Glen Rock, she served as an Extraordinary Minister of Holy Communion and volunteered much of her time.  Her desire to help others was evident through her volunteer work with Bergen Pines Regional Medical Center in Paramus and St. Joseph’s Hospital & Medical Center Pediatric Oncology Ward.  Barbara enjoyed swimming, walking and gardening. 

Beloved wife of the late Edward J. Bender.  Loving and devoted mother of Ellen Bender, Peter Bender and Donna McGraw.  Dear sister of Fred Nestler and the late Eleanor Nestler Arvidson and surviving husband, Wayne.  Cherished grandmother of four.  She is also survived by many loving nieces, nephews and cousins.

The family will receive relatives and friends Sunday, November 26, 2017, 4-8 pm at Vander Plaat-Caggiano Funeral Home, 13-31 Saddle River Road, Fair Lawn, NJ.  A Funeral Mass is planned for Monday, November 27, 2017, 10:30 am at St. Anne R.C. Church, 15-05 St. Anne Street, Fair Lawn, NJ 07410.  Interment will follow at Maryrest Cemetery in Mahwah.  In lieu of flowers, donations to St. Anne R.C. Church would be appreciated.

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I am so sorry to hear of the passing of "Mrs Bender." I am comforted to think of her being reunited with Mr. Bender and my mother, who she was such a beautiful friend to. Sending love to all of the family during this sad time. Much love, Michele Roberts (formerly Harknett)
Michele Roberts (Harknett)
Dear Fred, Ellen, Peter,and Donna, My deepest sympathies to all of you and your families. We go back a long time, 81 years to be exact. We grew up together and renewed our friendship the last few years over lunch. I will miss your sister and mom very much because she always brought me up to date on your families. In fact we were in the process of getting together in the near future,. GOD has brought home a beautiful person to be with her parents, husband, and sister.
Marion (Zschack) Mascone
Barbara was such a gentle soul, loved by all she met. I'm hoping she and Ed and the rest of the family will be having a lovely time together. Peace and prayers - Cathy and family.
Catherine Bender DiPietro
Ellen, so sorry for the loss of you mom. Thoughts and prayers from our family to yours. Mike, Shelly, Madison & Emily Carroll
Mike Carroll
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